Paint and My Mat

Don’t Forget to Check Up on Your Quiet Friends

In a world that often celebrates extroversion, it’s easy to overlook the quieter voices around us. While outgoing individuals might naturally draw attention, the silent ones can sometimes fade into the background. Yet, their silence doesn’t always signify contentment.

Checking up on your quiet friends is an act of profound kindness and understanding. Just because someone isn’t vocal about their struggles doesn’t mean they’re immune to them. In fact, they may be battling their demons silently, hoping someone would notice.
I know it’s easy to say “Oh, they never message me… so why should I check on them?”. I know It doesn’t feel good when they don’t reply to your messages when you do ask them how they are. I know it feels personal when they listen to your message and don’t reply for days and days. But… try to remind yourself that something deeper could be going on to make them act that way.

So, how can you check in on your quiet friends effectively?

Firstly, initiate genuine conversations. Instead of waiting for them to open up, take the first step. Ask them how they’re doing, and more importantly, listen actively. Sometimes, all they need is a non-judgmental ear to confide in.

Secondly, be observant. Notice subtle changes in their behavior or mood. Are they withdrawing more than usual? Have they stopped participating in activities they used to enjoy? These could be signs that they’re struggling and need support.

Thirdly, offer your support consistently. Let them know you’re there for them, not just once but consistently. Invite them to hang out or participate in activities, but respect their boundaries if they decline. Sometimes, just knowing someone cares can make a world of difference.

Lastly, be patient and understanding. Building trust takes time, especially for someone who’s naturally reserved. Don’t pressure them to open up; let them do so at their own pace.

In essence, checking up on your quiet friends is about fostering a culture of empathy and support. It’s about acknowledging that everyone fights their battles differently and that sometimes, the ones who need help the most are the ones who ask for it the least. So, reach out, listen, and be there for your quiet friends—they’ll appreciate it more than you know.

Creating Healthy Habits

Hey lovelies! Let’s have a heart-to-heart about habits. You know, those little things we do every day without even thinking about them. Turns out, they have a massive impact on our lives, from our health to our happiness.

So, picture this: you want to get fit, eat better, or just feel more zen. Where do you start? It’s all about those small changes. Like, instead of diving headfirst into a crazy workout routine, how about starting with a daily walk around the block? Or swapping out that sugary snack for a piece of fruit. I’m one to talk… I love sugar. -.-

But here’s the kicker: consistency is key. Yup, showing up every day, even when you don’t feel like it. Trust me, those tiny steps add up big time over time. As long as you are trying, it makes a difference.

Oh, and let’s not forget about the “why” behind the habit. What’s your motivation? Whether it’s fitting into those jeans or just feeling more energized, keeping that goal in mind will keep you going when the going gets tough. I like to write my goals down and put them somewhere I can see them all the time. Making vision boards can be very helpful too. It all depends on what you find to be motivating. I am a very visual person, so seeing my goals in picture form works wonders for me.

And hey, you’re not in this alone! Rally your squad, whether it’s a workout buddy or a group chat, having people to cheer you on makes all the difference.

Now, here’s the thing: you’re gonna mess up. It happens to the best of us. But instead of throwing in the towel, use those slip-ups as learning opportunities. Dust yourself off and get back on track. You got this!

So, what are you waiting for? Start small, stay consistent, remember your why, lean on your support system, and don’t sweat the setbacks. Before you know it, you’ll be crushing those goals and living your best life.

A Reminder

This is a reminder for me and for everyone who feels a little stuck sometimes. This morning I woke up and I felt horrible. All the not-nice emotions decided to visit me today and getting back into a lighter mood hasn’t exactly been easy.

Feeling stuck in a funk is something we all experience at some point. Whether it’s due to stress, uncertainty, or just a general feeling of ick, getting out of that rut can seem like an impossible task. However, with a few simple strategies, you can kick-start your journey towards a brighter, more positive mindset.

Move Your Body: What a little physical activity can do for your mood is amazing. Whether going for a brisk walk, dancing around your living room, or hitting the gym, exercise releases endorphins that can help lift your spirits and clear your mind. Currently, I am very pregnant, so I can’t go too hard but having a little solo dance party has done wonders for my mental health. Don’t forget how far a bit of stretching can go too. Just keep moving, it shows your body huge amounts of love.
Practice Gratitude: Take a moment to reflect on what you’re grateful for. Write them down in a journal or simply say them out loud. Focusing on the positive aspects of your life can help shift your perspective and remind you that there is still much to be thankful for even in tough times.
Connect with Others: Reach out to a friend or loved one and engage in meaningful conversation. Sometimes, simply talking to someone who cares about you can provide the support and encouragement you need to shake off the funk. This is honestly something I have always struggled to do. I’m not great at talking but I keep this reminder close by.
Engage in Self-Care: Treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Take a relaxing bath, indulge in your favorite hobby, or simply spend some time alone doing something that brings you joy. Prioritizing self-care can help recharge your batteries and improve your overall well-being.
Set Small Goals: Break down your tasks into smaller, manageable goals. Accomplishing even the simplest of tasks can give you a sense of achievement and momentum to tackle bigger challenges. It won’t hurt to give yourself a little reward too. I like chocolate.
Change Your Environment: Sometimes, a change of scenery is all you need to shift your perspective. If you can, go for a drive, visit a new coffee shop, or spend time in nature. Getting out of your usual surroundings can help break the cycle of negativity and inspire fresh ideas.

Remember, it’s okay to not be okay sometimes. Acknowledge your feelings, but don’t let them consume you. By implementing these strategies and taking proactive steps to care for yourself, you can gradually pull yourself out of the funk.

Trying To Find My Creative Spark

Hey there, besties!

Ever felt like you’ve lost touch with your creative side? Trust me, I’ve been there. (I’m currently there.) Life gets busy, distractions pile up, and before you know it, that once vibrant passion for your art dims into a distant memory. But fear not! After a prolonged hiatus, I’m here to share my journey of rediscovering my artistic mojo.

It all starts with a nagging feeling deep inside, a whisper of longing to pick up that paintbrush, dust off the sketchpad, pick up the pen, or open a clean new page to start a new story. I can’t ignore it any longer. So, armed with determination and a sprinkle of self-compassion, I embark on my quest to reignite my creativity.

The first step? Letting go of perfectionism. I like to remind myself that it’s okay to start small, to create without the pressure of producing a masterpiece. I doodle, experiment, and allow myself to make mistakes, embracing them as part of the process. When it comes to art, anything that gets your creativity moving counts. If I’m working on my writing, I love free writing and short writing exercises.

Next, I look for inspiration everywhere I go. From the vibrant hues of a sunset to the intricate patterns in everyday objects, I have trained my eyes to see the beauty in the mundane. And oh, the joy of discovering new artists and art forms! Their work can spark a fire within me, motivating me to explore different techniques and styles.

But perhaps the most crucial part of this journey is carving out dedicated time for my art. Amidst the hustle and bustle of daily life, I set aside moments solely for creative expression. Whether it’s early mornings with a cup of coffee or late nights illuminated by the glow of the desk lamp, those stolen hours become sacred. One year I got into the habit of getting up at 3am to start working on different projects. Watching the night transform into morning felt like magic to me and got the creativity flowing and slowly but surely, my passion for art reignited.

With each stroke of the brush, every sketch, and every word written, I feel more alive than ever before. Art is my sanctuary, it’s a place where I can lose myself and find myself all at once.

So, if you’re struggling to reconnect with your creativity, know that you’re not alone. Take it one brushstroke at a time, be gentle with yourself, and above all, never underestimate the power of simply starting. Who knows? Your next masterpiece might be just around the corner.

Here’s to embracing the journey and letting our creativity soar!

Trying To Dance With Change

Hey, lovelies! I’ve been hyperfocused on change lately. It’s all I can see and think about. I’ve come to many realisations over the past couple of weeks and I’m trying to sort through it all. Ultimately, change is the one constant in life that we can always count on and it keeps us moving on our spiritual journey.

Picture this: You’re cruising along, feeling pretty comfy in your groove, when suddenly, life throws a curveball your way. Maybe it’s a breakup, a job loss, or a cosmic wake-up call that shakes you to your core. In that moment, you’ve got a choice: Do you resist, clinging desperately to what was? Or do you surrender to the flow, letting change sweep you into the next chapter of your soul’s evolution?
It’s scary, going through something that throws you off your axis. I know, in those moments I don’t feel like doing anything else but staying nice and warm in my comfort zone. I don’t see or understand the lessons I’m meant to be learning. I don’t even comprehend why any of it is happening. I just shut down.

Spoiler alert: The real magic happens when you choose to dance with change. It’s like stepping onto the dance floor of life with your heart wide open, ready to twirl and spin with whatever comes your way. I’m not a good dancer, so I don’t know why I mention dancing… there’s nothing scarier to me than falling on my bum. But I guess I just have to trust that every stumble is just a chance to bust out a new move, every fall a reminder to get back up and keep vibing.

Here’s the thing about change: It’s not just about rearranging the furniture in your life. It’s about tapping into the deeper currents of your soul, shedding old layers to reveal the shining essence at your core. Each shift, no matter how small, is an opportunity to reconnect with your truest self, to align more fully with the divine flow of the universe. Remember, everything happens for a reason.

So, the next time life throws you a curveball, remember to breathe, surrender, and just… dance. Trust that every twist and turn is guiding you closer to your highest good, leading you ever onward on your soul’s journey. After all, change isn’t just a destination—it’s the very heartbeat of existence, the sacred rhythm that propels us ever forward on our path to wholeness.

So let’s shimmy and shake, my friends, embracing the dance of change with open hearts and souls on fire.

Embracing Solitude

In the hustle and bustle of modern life, amidst the constant noise and distractions, there lies a sanctuary waiting to be discovered: solitude. While often mistaken for loneliness, solitude is a deliberate choice to seek out moments of peace and reflection away from the clamour of the world.

In solitude, we find the space to reconnect with ourselves, to listen to the whispers of our own thoughts and emotions without the interference of external influences. It is a sacred time where we can delve into the depths of our being, understanding ourselves more profoundly and gaining clarity amidst life’s complexities.

Far from being isolating, solitude nourishes the soul, offering a chance for introspection and self-discovery. It allows us to recharge our energies, rejuvenate our spirits, and cultivate a sense of inner harmony that permeates every aspect of our lives.

Whether it’s a solitary walk in nature, a quiet moment of meditation, or simply unplugging from the digital world, embracing solitude can be a transformative experience. It enables us to tap into our creativity, unlock new insights, and foster a deeper connection with the world around us.

So, amidst the noise of daily life, don’t forget to carve out moments of solitude. In doing so, you may just find the serenity and clarity you’ve been searching for all along.

Affirmations Are Magic

Hey, Lovelies!

Life’s a rollercoaster, right? Sometimes it feels like we’re riding high, and other times, well, not so much. But you know what helps me get through and always has? Affirmations. Affirmations are like little pep talks you give yourself.

Picture this: instead of waking up groggy and grumpy, you start your morning with a quick “I’ve got this!” or “Today is going to be amazing!” I know it’s easier said than done but it makes a huge difference.

The beauty of affirmations lies in their simplicity. They’re like mini reminders of how awesome you are and what you’re capable of achieving. And the best part? You can customise them however you like. Whether it’s boosting your confidence, staying focused on your goals, or just spreading good vibes – there’s an affirmation for every occasion.

Now, I’m not saying affirmations are some kind of magic potion that’ll instantly solve all your problems. But they are magic and they do help shift your mindset in a positive direction and in a world full of negativity and self-doubt, that’s something worth holding onto.

So, next time you catch yourself feeling down or stressed out, why not give affirmations a try? Repeat a few positive phrases, embrace the good vibes, and see how it brightens up your day. Remember, it’s the little things that make all the difference.

Here are some of my favourite affirmations:

Time To Vision Board

I am starting late, I know……
I think the best thing for me to do, is to pretend that January didn’t happen and that February is actually the first month of the year.

So, it’s time to make a vision board – a visually inspiring collage that can act as a roadmap to your goals and desires. I make vision boards every year and I am so excited to make one for 2024! I have a feeling that this year is going to be full of crazy amazing things!

Here’s mine:

I like to keep my vision boards simple. I can make more than one and I can change them up whenever I feel like it. Remember this is a very personal exercise.

A vision board is more than just a collection of images and words pasted onto a board; it’s a tangible representation of your dreams and a constant reminder of what you want to manifest in your life. Here’s how to create your own vision board and harness its transformative potential:

1. Reflect on Your Goals:
Take some time to reflect on your short-term and long-term goals. What do you aspire to achieve in your personal and professional life? Consider your dreams, ambitions, and the kind of person you want to become.

2. Gather Materials:
If you are going to do this old school and make a big beautiful vision board that you can stick up on your wall then you’re going to need a few things. Collect magazines, images, quotes, and any other materials that resonate with your goals. The more diverse and representative, the better. You might also include personal photos, affirmations, and mementos.

3. Select a Medium:
Choose the format for your vision board. Some prefer a physical board using cork or poster board, while others opt for a digital version using online platforms or apps. The key is to select a medium that feels most accessible and inspiring to you. I always tend to make my vision boards online, because that just works for me. I then make my vision board the background on my phone and desktop. The most important thing in my opinion is that you see it everyday.

4. Get Creative:
Arrange your chosen materials on the board in a way that visually communicates your goals. Feel free to get creative – there are no strict rules. Use colours, textures, and patterns that evoke the emotions associated with your aspirations.

5. Place It Where You’ll See It:
Your vision board should be placed in a prominent location where you’ll encounter it daily. This constant visual reminder helps reinforce your goals and keeps them at the forefront of your mind.

6. Visualise and Affirm:
Regularly spend a few moments visualising yourself achieving your goals while looking at your vision board. Couple this with positive affirmations to enhance the impact. The combination of visualisation and affirmation can significantly boost your motivation and focus. You guys know I’m a huge fan of affirmations!

7. Update and Evolve:
As your goals evolve or change, update your vision board accordingly. It’s a dynamic tool that grows with you and adapts to your shifting aspirations.

Remember, a vision board is a personal and powerful tool that taps into the psychology of visualisation. By actively engaging with your dreams in a tangible way, you’re taking a proactive step towards turning them into reality. Embrace the creative process, stay focused, and watch as your vision board becomes a catalyst for positive change in your life.

Feeling Lonely

In a world more connected than ever, loneliness remains an unwelcome companion for many. Even though the world has become smaller because of the digital threads weaving through our lives, the sense of isolation tends to persist. I know it’s easier said than done to reach out to people but I guess we need to find a way to bridge the gap between isolation and belonging.

Recognising loneliness as a shared experience can be the first step towards a more connected life. It’s not uncommon for others to feel the same way, and acknowledging this common thread can pave the way for meaningful connections. I am constantly looking for new connections.

My life has changed so much over the past few years and I find myself feeling more and more alone even though a whole world of potential is often held in the palm of my hand. Technology, for all its isolating potential, can also be a bridge to companionship. Virtual communities, social media groups, and online forums provide spaces where like-minded individuals can come together, fostering a sense of belonging. I haven’t had much luck yet in making life-long friends online but I have found a sense of community through social media. I think we all have to stay open minded, try new things and different platforms. There are so many beautiful, magical humans out there looking for the same things. We all need friends and companionship.

Loneliness is not a permanent state; it’s a passing cloud in the vast sky of human experience. A lesson that I have been trying to learn over the years is how to be alone and even though I am open to learning how to lean on myself and find comfort in myself…. I do miss having someone else to spend time with. So be open to the reality of being alone and the huge benefits of finding comfort in yourself but don’t give up on finding the people that are meant to be in your life.

Getting Back Into The Swing Of Things

The start of a new chapter, a fresh beginning… I don’t know about you but that is exactly what I need. Whether you took a break, faced a setback, or simply drifted off course, getting back into the swing of things is a powerful step towards achieving your goals.

It’s time to reflect on your why. Take a moment to reconnect with your motivation. Why did you start this journey in the first place? Reflecting on your purpose can reignite the passion that fuelled your initial endeavours. I enjoy getting creative with this, I am a big fan of mood and vision boards. You could sit down for a few minutes and journal about it too. As long as you allow yourself to reconnect with that why.

Don’t overwhelm yourself with huge goals! Start small and build momentum gradually. I like to create three or four categories. Super short term – Long term. Something small could be how you need to declutter your phone. Every little thing that you achieve makes a huge difference.

Something I have to remind myself every day is that consistency is key. Create a daily routine that accommodates your goals. Whether it’s dedicating specific time slots for work, exercise, or leisure, a well-structured routine helps establish a sense of normalcy. 🙂

Getting back into the swing of things doesn’t mean neglecting your well-being. Prioritise self-care to ensure you have the energy and resilience needed for your journey. You can’t expect yourself to achieve all the amazing things if you’re not taking care of your mental health. You need to get sufficient sleep, try to eat healthy, and moments of relaxation goes a long way.

Another little reminder is that setbacks are a natural part of any journey. Instead of fixating on perfection, celebrate your progress. Every step forward, no matter how small, is a victory in itself. Be proud that you showed up for yourself and your goals! And don’t forget to be positive. Focus on the opportunities that lie ahead rather than dwelling on the past. The past is done, it’s over and there’s no way to change any of it… so just keep your eyes on the prize and just keep swimming.

Getting back into the swing of things is about embracing the journey, acknowledging the ebb and flow of life, and taking intentional steps toward your aspirations. As you regain your momentum, remember that each day is a chance to rewrite your story and move closer to the life you envision.

I believe in us! We can totally do the thing besties!