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Life Update

Hey, besties. I just wanted to post a little life update. I haven’t done this in a long while. I am very pregnant at the moment and extremely uncomfortable. LOL. I can’t believe that in just a few days, we are going to be parents! I quickly put together a little update, unedited and rushed. 🙂

I have done absolutely nothing over the last couple of days.

I am trying to give myself some grace in this time of my life but I can’t help but feel like I’m running out of time but I know that’s silly. I will still have all the time in the world to do the things that make me happy. Just like everything in life… it’s all about mindset and how we approach things. Life will carry on… the sun will keep rising and setting.

I will find a routine that will work for all of us and I will continue to create content and write books because that’s what I love doing. And we can’t pour from an empty cup. This huge life change will only add happiness… it will change things up and morph the things I love but I will continue to create and make art.

I don’t know how much I’ll be able to get done over the next few days but I’m going to allow myself to just do what feels good. Baby will be here so soon. I can hardly believe it! DAYS AWAY!!

I hope you’re all having a fantastic weekend. I’ll chat to you soon. 🙂 ❤

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The Power of Taking Time for Yourself

In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of obligations, responsibilities, and commitments. Amidst this chaos, we often forget one crucial aspect of self-care: taking time for ourselves. We can’t pour from an empty cup, friends.

In a world that glorifies productivity and constant connectivity, carving out moments of solitude might seem counterintuitive. However, it’s during these moments of solitude that we can truly recharge, reflect, and reconnect with ourselves. Whether it’s a few minutes of mindfulness meditation in the morning, a leisurely stroll in nature during lunch break, or indulging in a hobby that brings us joy, taking time for ourselves is essential for our mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

In solitude, we find the space to listen to our inner voice, untangle our thoughts, and gain clarity amidst the chaos. It’s a time for self-discovery, self-compassion, and self-renewal. So, amidst the noise of the world, remember to prioritize yourself. Take that moment to breathe, to be present, and to embrace the beauty of solitude. After all, it’s in these moments that we truly find ourselves.

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Tapping into Your Inner Counselor

Hey, friends! Life can be a bit much sometimes… and sometimes it’s hard to find help. But guess what? We can always turn within and be our own counselors. Here are some little tips on how to tune into yourself when you need to hold that space for yourself.

  1. Ditch the Noise: Take a breather from the chaos. Find a cozy spot, kick back, and let your mind unwind. Watch what thoughts come up and with zero judgment, let yourself feel whatever it is that comes up. Even if you think it’s silly, nothing is too small, and everything you feel matters. It’s amazing what clarity you can find in the silence.
  2. Get Zen with Mindfulness: A bit of mindfulness goes a long way. Try a few different meditations or deep breathing exercises. As long as you’re making that effort to be in the moment with your body. Being mindful makes a world of difference for your mental health. It will teach you to recognise certain thought patterns and feelings.
  3. Jot it Down: Grab a notebook and pen (or your phone, if that’s more your vibe) and start jotting down your thoughts. It’s like having a heart-to-heart with yourself—no filter needed. Just let it all out… even if all you’re writing is one word over and over. There’s no right way to do this.
  4. Reflect!: Take a second to ponder life’s big questions. Where are you in your life? Where are you headed? What’s lighting your fire? Reflecting on these things can help you tap into your inner compass.
  5. Trust Your Gut: Your intuition’s like your BFF who’s always got your back. So, when your gut speaks up, listen! It’s usually onto something.
  6. Find Your Chill Zone: Balance is key. Listen to your inner compass when it’s time to Netflix and chill or go out and vibe with friends. Your mind knows what’s up and what you need most in the moment. And don’t judge yourself! Don’t be hard on yourself when you feel that you need to take a break from life.
  7. Be Kind to Yourself: Cut yourself some slack. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s pretty freaking awesome. Treat yourself like you’d treat your bestie—with huge amounts of love and respect.
  8. Set Boundaries: Your inner counselor knows when it’s time to say “peace out” to things that aren’t serving you. Learn to set boundaries like a boss and watch your mental health improve. There is nothing wrong with saying no!

So, there you have it… Remember, you’ve got all the wisdom you need right inside you. You just have to tune in and vibe with it. Keep it up, friends.

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Rolling into the Homestretch

Hey there, fellow mama-to-be! Can you believe how fast the time goes by? I don’t know about you but I feel like this pregnancy has gone by super fast. I am almost 37 weeks pregnant and baby is coming in less than two weeks!

If you’re in your third trimester… physically, let’s be real – you might be feeling like a tortoise stuck on its back trying to roll over. Everything takes extra effort, from getting out of bed to tying your shoes. But hey, those little kicks and jabs from your baby are like tiny reminders that it’s all worth it.

Emotionally, you’re probably bouncing between sheer excitement and moments of “Holy crap, am I ready for this?!” Nesting has kicked into high gear, and you’re likely rearranging the nursery for the umpteenth time, just to make sure everything’s perfect. I know when it hits me that she’s going to be here in what feels like days… I need to stop and give myself a moment of calm. In a way… I’m freaking out.

But you know what? Despite the late-night bathroom runs, the heartburn, and the emotional rollercoaster, there’s a sense of badassery that comes with being nine months pregnant. You’re growing a human being inside you – how cool is that? I can’t get over how powerful the body is, how magical it is that we can do something like this!

So, keep rocking those stretchy pants, indulge in those weird pregnancy cravings, and soak in every little moment of this final stretch. Because soon enough, you’ll be holding your little bundle of joy in your arms, and all these pregnancy struggles will become distant memories. We’ve got this, mama! I’m sending you huge love!

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Knowing When To Let Go

In this crazy thing we call life, there comes a time when we must confront the challenging reality of letting go. Letting go of people. Whether it’s a friend, partner, or colleague, the decision to part ways can be emotionally taxing yet profoundly liberating. You just need to give yourself the chance to say goodbye.

Recognizing when to let go of people is an essential skill for personal growth and emotional well-being. Here are a few insights to consider:

  1. Recognize Toxicity: Be mindful of relationships that drain your energy, undermine your self-worth, or perpetuate negativity. Sometimes, holding onto toxic relationships can hinder your personal development.
  2. Assess Reciprocity: Healthy relationships thrive on mutual respect, support, and reciprocity. If you find yourself constantly investing more effort and care than you receive in return, it might be time to reevaluate the relationship’s dynamics.
  3. Embrace Change: People change, and sometimes, relationships evolve or outgrow their initial purpose. Embracing change means acknowledging when a relationship no longer serves your best interests or aligns with your values.
  4. Trust Your Instincts: Trust your intuition. If something feels off or unsustainable in a relationship, it’s worth exploring those feelings. Your instincts often provide valuable insights into the health of your connections.
  5. Prioritize Self-Care: Letting go of people doesn’t equate to failure; it’s an act of self-preservation and self-care. Prioritize your emotional well-being and surround yourself with individuals who uplift and support you.

Remember, letting go doesn’t mean forgetting the positive experiences or dismissing the significance of the relationship. It’s about acknowledging the need for closure and embracing the possibilities that come with new beginnings. As challenging as it may be, learning when to let go of people is a crucial step toward personal growth, resilience, and inner peace.

I have been stuck in toxic relationships and it’s hard to let go. It’s hard to tell yourself that you deserve better. It takes work to recognise when it’s time to say goodbye and yes, it may mean that you might be alone for a while but by letting go of the people who no longer bring light into your life… you are making space for the people who will. 🙂

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Rise Above It

Hey there, beautiful creatures! So, the flu bug has decided to pay you a visit, huh? Yeah, I was there not long ago. Don’t fret; we’ve got some soulful tips to help you ride the wave and keep your spirits shining bright:

  1. Rest and Recharge: Picture this: cozy blankets, your favorite mug filled with soothing tea, and some good ol’ Netflix. Embrace this downtime as an opportunity to rest, recharge, and indulge in some well-deserved self-care. Remember, when we get sick it’s our body’s way of telling us to slow down.
  2. Hydration Vibes: Hydration isn’t just about guzzling water (although that’s crucial too). It’s about infusing your body with love and healing vibes. Sip on herbal concoctions, nourishing soups, and anything else that speaks to your soul and keeps those fluids flowing.
  3. Nourish Your Temple: Let’s talk food, lovelies! Fill your plate with rainbow-colored goodness – fruits, veggies, and all the wholesome goodies that fuel your body and lift your spirits. Think of it as a delicious offering to your temple. (Though you shouldn’t forget to indulge in something comforting like cake if that brings you joy.)
  4. Listen to Your Inner Wisdom: Your body is a temple, and it speaks to you in whispers. Tune in, listen closely, and honor what it’s telling you. Rest when you need to, move gently, and let your intuition be your guide through this healing journey.
  5. Trust the Universe: Sometimes, the universe throws us a curveball – like a flu bug. But trust that everything happens for a reason. Embrace the lessons, surrender to the flow, and know that this too shall pass.

So, dear flu-fighting warrior, remember to breathe, surrender, and keep your inner light shining bright. You’ve got this, and before you know it, you’ll be back to dancing through life with a newfound appreciation for your resilience and the beauty of the present moment.

Huge amounts of peace, love, and healing vibes coming your way!

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Decoding Dreams

Dreams have long fascinated and mystified humanity. From ancient civilizations to modern psychologists, the interpretation of dreams has been a subject of intrigue and speculation. But what do our dreams really mean?

At its core, dream interpretation is as diverse as the dreams themselves. While some view dreams as mere random firing of neurons during sleep, others believe they hold profound significance, reflecting our subconscious desires, fears, and unresolved conflicts.
Dream interpretation was one of my mom’s all-time favourite things to do and she was freakishly good at it too.

One popular approach to dream analysis is through symbolism. Objects, people, and scenarios in dreams are often thought to represent deeper aspects of our psyche. For example, dreaming of falling may symbolize a loss of control in waking life, while encountering a snake could signify hidden fears or temptations.

Another perspective emphasizes the role of emotions in dreams. The feelings evoked during a dream – whether fear, joy, or sadness – are believed to provide valuable insights into our emotional state and psychological well-being. My mom was big on symbolism but she was also very connected to her emotions. She would find meaning in every single aspect of the dream by connecting them to certain emotions and combined with some symbolism she got the message she needed from the dream.

While there’s no universal dictionary for decoding dreams, exploring personal associations and context can offer valuable clues. Keeping a dream journal to track recurring themes and patterns may help uncover underlying messages.

Ultimately, the interpretation of dreams is a deeply personal journey. Whether you believe dreams hold hidden truths or are simply the brain’s way of processing information, one thing is certain: they continue to captivate and inspire us, inviting us to delve into the enigmatic realms of the subconscious mind.

Looking closer at your dreams could help you understand yourself a little better, there’s no harm in giving it a go if you’ve been feeling a little stuck in life. You never know what you might learn if you dig into your brain a little.

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Discovering Meditation

In today’s fast-paced world, finding moments of tranquility can seem like a luxury. That’s where meditation comes in.

Meditation is more than just a relaxation technique; it’s a practice that can profoundly impact our mental, emotional, and even physical well-being. By simply taking a few minutes each day to sit quietly, focus on your breath, and observe your thoughts without judgment, you can tap into a profound sense of inner calm.

Studies have shown that regular meditation can reduce stress, improve concentration, enhance self-awareness, and promote emotional health. It’s a simple yet effective way to cultivate mindfulness and become more present in the moment. I started small. I would close my eyes, do a quick body scan, and then focus on my breathing. Doing just that every day, changed my life. Slowly I started trying different types of meditation and techniques, I can honestly say that it helped me heal in a way that I never thought possible.

You don’t need any special equipment or experience to start meditating—all you need is a quiet space and a willingness to be still. Whether you choose to sit in silence, listen to guided meditations, or practice mindful movement like yoga, the key is consistency. Keep coming back to yourself every day, give yourself that chance to decompress. Life can be so demanding, we deserve a break and a little silence.

So, why not give meditation a try? Dedicate just a few minutes each day to quieting your mind and connecting with your inner self. You may be surprised at the profound impact it can have on your overall well-being.

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Angel Numbers

Ever feel like the universe is trying to send you a text message through numbers? You know, when you keep spotting the same number sequence everywhere you look? Yeah, that’s what some of us call “angel numbers.”

So, what are they there for and why do we keep seeing them? Well, according to a lot of peoples beliefs, they’re like little cosmic Post-it notes from guardian angels or the universe itself. Each sequence carries its own secret message that we need to decipher.

Take 111, for example. It can represent opportunity, good luck, and achievement.  Then there’s 222, which reminds you to find balance and trust the process – it can signify good fortune in finances, relationships, and your career.

Now, decoding angel numbers is about as personal as it gets. Some people swear by numerology books or angelic guidance manuals, while others just go with their gut feelings. It’s all about finding what resonates with you. I am very much all about trusting and listening to your gut but I do believe in numerology… so I kind of just take what feels right from numerology to find the meanings of the numbers I see everywhere.
My current numbers are : 1717, 1111 and 1212.

But whether you’re a skeptic or a believer, there’s no denying the magic in stumbling upon these cosmic coincidences. They’re like little reminders that there might be more to this world than meets the eye.

So, next time you catch sight of a repeating number sequence, maybe take a second to ponder its potential meaning. Who knows? You might just uncover a message from the universe, hidden in plain sight.

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Writing Helps

Hey there, lovelies! Let’s talk about a little habit that packs a big punch: journaling. Yep, that thing where you put pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard) and spill your thoughts out like confetti at a party. In my opinion, everyone should journal. Here’s why:

  1. Clears the Mental Clutter: Ever feel like your brain is a messy closet stuffed with thoughts, worries, and random ideas? Journaling is like Marie Kondo for your mind. It helps you sort through the chaos, organize your thoughts, and make space for clarity. Keep the stuff that brings you joy, and let everything else out.
  2. Emotional Release: Life can be a rollercoaster of emotions; sometimes it feels like we’re just hanging on for dear life. Journaling gives you a safe space to unleash those feelings – the good, the bad, and the ugly. It’s like venting to your best friend, except your journal won’t judge or spill your secrets. I always feel ten times lighter after a good journalling session.
  3. Self-Discovery: Who are you, really? What do you want out of life? Journaling is like a mirror for your soul. By reflecting on your experiences, dreams, and fears, you get to know yourself on a deeper level. It’s like having a heart-to-heart with the most important person in your life – you.
  4. Problem Solving: Stuck in a rut? Can’t see the forest for the trees? Journaling helps you gain perspective. Writing down your challenges and brainstorming solutions can lead to those “Aha!” moments that change everything. It’s like having a personal brainstorming session with yourself.
  5. Gratitude Attitude: In a world that’s constantly telling us we need more, more, more, it’s easy to forget what we already have. Journaling helps us practice gratitude, shining a spotlight on the little moments of joy and the big blessings in our lives. It’s like saying “thank you” to the universe every day. I love sneaking gratitude practices into everything I do.

So, there you have it – the lowdown on why journaling is basically the superhero of self-care habits. Whether you’re a seasoned journal junkie or a newbie dipping your toes in the inkwell, give it a try. Who knows? You might just unlock a new world of insights, creativity, and inner peace. Happy journaling, friends!

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Don’t Forget to Check Up on Your Quiet Friends

In a world that often celebrates extroversion, it’s easy to overlook the quieter voices around us. While outgoing individuals might naturally draw attention, the silent ones can sometimes fade into the background. Yet, their silence doesn’t always signify contentment.

Checking up on your quiet friends is an act of profound kindness and understanding. Just because someone isn’t vocal about their struggles doesn’t mean they’re immune to them. In fact, they may be battling their demons silently, hoping someone would notice.
I know it’s easy to say “Oh, they never message me… so why should I check on them?”. I know It doesn’t feel good when they don’t reply to your messages when you do ask them how they are. I know it feels personal when they listen to your message and don’t reply for days and days. But… try to remind yourself that something deeper could be going on to make them act that way.

So, how can you check in on your quiet friends effectively?

Firstly, initiate genuine conversations. Instead of waiting for them to open up, take the first step. Ask them how they’re doing, and more importantly, listen actively. Sometimes, all they need is a non-judgmental ear to confide in.

Secondly, be observant. Notice subtle changes in their behavior or mood. Are they withdrawing more than usual? Have they stopped participating in activities they used to enjoy? These could be signs that they’re struggling and need support.

Thirdly, offer your support consistently. Let them know you’re there for them, not just once but consistently. Invite them to hang out or participate in activities, but respect their boundaries if they decline. Sometimes, just knowing someone cares can make a world of difference.

Lastly, be patient and understanding. Building trust takes time, especially for someone who’s naturally reserved. Don’t pressure them to open up; let them do so at their own pace.

In essence, checking up on your quiet friends is about fostering a culture of empathy and support. It’s about acknowledging that everyone fights their battles differently and that sometimes, the ones who need help the most are the ones who ask for it the least. So, reach out, listen, and be there for your quiet friends—they’ll appreciate it more than you know.

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Creating Healthy Habits

Hey lovelies! Let’s have a heart-to-heart about habits. You know, those little things we do every day without even thinking about them. Turns out, they have a massive impact on our lives, from our health to our happiness.

So, picture this: you want to get fit, eat better, or just feel more zen. Where do you start? It’s all about those small changes. Like, instead of diving headfirst into a crazy workout routine, how about starting with a daily walk around the block? Or swapping out that sugary snack for a piece of fruit. I’m one to talk… I love sugar. -.-

But here’s the kicker: consistency is key. Yup, showing up every day, even when you don’t feel like it. Trust me, those tiny steps add up big time over time. As long as you are trying, it makes a difference.

Oh, and let’s not forget about the “why” behind the habit. What’s your motivation? Whether it’s fitting into those jeans or just feeling more energized, keeping that goal in mind will keep you going when the going gets tough. I like to write my goals down and put them somewhere I can see them all the time. Making vision boards can be very helpful too. It all depends on what you find to be motivating. I am a very visual person, so seeing my goals in picture form works wonders for me.

And hey, you’re not in this alone! Rally your squad, whether it’s a workout buddy or a group chat, having people to cheer you on makes all the difference.

Now, here’s the thing: you’re gonna mess up. It happens to the best of us. But instead of throwing in the towel, use those slip-ups as learning opportunities. Dust yourself off and get back on track. You got this!

So, what are you waiting for? Start small, stay consistent, remember your why, lean on your support system, and don’t sweat the setbacks. Before you know it, you’ll be crushing those goals and living your best life.

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A Reminder

This is a reminder for me and for everyone who feels a little stuck sometimes. This morning I woke up and I felt horrible. All the not-nice emotions decided to visit me today and getting back into a lighter mood hasn’t exactly been easy.

Feeling stuck in a funk is something we all experience at some point. Whether it’s due to stress, uncertainty, or just a general feeling of ick, getting out of that rut can seem like an impossible task. However, with a few simple strategies, you can kick-start your journey towards a brighter, more positive mindset.

  1. Move Your Body: What a little physical activity can do for your mood is amazing. Whether going for a brisk walk, dancing around your living room, or hitting the gym, exercise releases endorphins that can help lift your spirits and clear your mind. Currently, I am very pregnant, so I can’t go too hard but having a little solo dance party has done wonders for my mental health. Don’t forget how far a bit of stretching can go too. Just keep moving, it shows your body huge amounts of love.
  2. Practice Gratitude: Take a moment to reflect on what you’re grateful for. Write them down in a journal or simply say them out loud. Focusing on the positive aspects of your life can help shift your perspective and remind you that there is still much to be thankful for even in tough times.
  3. Connect with Others: Reach out to a friend or loved one and engage in meaningful conversation. Sometimes, simply talking to someone who cares about you can provide the support and encouragement you need to shake off the funk. This is honestly something I have always struggled to do. I’m not great at talking but I keep this reminder close by.
  4. Engage in Self-Care: Treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Take a relaxing bath, indulge in your favorite hobby, or simply spend some time alone doing something that brings you joy. Prioritizing self-care can help recharge your batteries and improve your overall well-being.
  5. Set Small Goals: Break down your tasks into smaller, manageable goals. Accomplishing even the simplest of tasks can give you a sense of achievement and momentum to tackle bigger challenges. It won’t hurt to give yourself a little reward too. I like chocolate.
  6. Change Your Environment: Sometimes, a change of scenery is all you need to shift your perspective. If you can, go for a drive, visit a new coffee shop, or spend time in nature. Getting out of your usual surroundings can help break the cycle of negativity and inspire fresh ideas.

Remember, it’s okay to not be okay sometimes. Acknowledge your feelings, but don’t let them consume you. By implementing these strategies and taking proactive steps to care for yourself, you can gradually pull yourself out of the funk.

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Trying To Find My Creative Spark

Hey there, besties!

Ever felt like you’ve lost touch with your creative side? Trust me, I’ve been there. (I’m currently there.) Life gets busy, distractions pile up, and before you know it, that once vibrant passion for your art dims into a distant memory. But fear not! After a prolonged hiatus, I’m here to share my journey of rediscovering my artistic mojo.

It all starts with a nagging feeling deep inside, a whisper of longing to pick up that paintbrush, dust off the sketchpad, pick up the pen, or open a clean new page to start a new story. I can’t ignore it any longer. So, armed with determination and a sprinkle of self-compassion, I embark on my quest to reignite my creativity.

The first step? Letting go of perfectionism. I like to remind myself that it’s okay to start small, to create without the pressure of producing a masterpiece. I doodle, experiment, and allow myself to make mistakes, embracing them as part of the process. When it comes to art, anything that gets your creativity moving counts. If I’m working on my writing, I love free writing and short writing exercises.

Next, I look for inspiration everywhere I go. From the vibrant hues of a sunset to the intricate patterns in everyday objects, I have trained my eyes to see the beauty in the mundane. And oh, the joy of discovering new artists and art forms! Their work can spark a fire within me, motivating me to explore different techniques and styles.

But perhaps the most crucial part of this journey is carving out dedicated time for my art. Amidst the hustle and bustle of daily life, I set aside moments solely for creative expression. Whether it’s early mornings with a cup of coffee or late nights illuminated by the glow of the desk lamp, those stolen hours become sacred. One year I got into the habit of getting up at 3am to start working on different projects. Watching the night transform into morning felt like magic to me and got the creativity flowing and slowly but surely, my passion for art reignited.

With each stroke of the brush, every sketch, and every word written, I feel more alive than ever before. Art is my sanctuary, it’s a place where I can lose myself and find myself all at once.

So, if you’re struggling to reconnect with your creativity, know that you’re not alone. Take it one brushstroke at a time, be gentle with yourself, and above all, never underestimate the power of simply starting. Who knows? Your next masterpiece might be just around the corner.

Here’s to embracing the journey and letting our creativity soar!

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Trying To Dance With Change

Hey, lovelies! I’ve been hyperfocused on change lately. It’s all I can see and think about. I’ve come to many realisations over the past couple of weeks and I’m trying to sort through it all. Ultimately, change is the one constant in life that we can always count on and it keeps us moving on our spiritual journey.

Picture this: You’re cruising along, feeling pretty comfy in your groove, when suddenly, life throws a curveball your way. Maybe it’s a breakup, a job loss, or a cosmic wake-up call that shakes you to your core. In that moment, you’ve got a choice: Do you resist, clinging desperately to what was? Or do you surrender to the flow, letting change sweep you into the next chapter of your soul’s evolution?
It’s scary, going through something that throws you off your axis. I know, in those moments I don’t feel like doing anything else but staying nice and warm in my comfort zone. I don’t see or understand the lessons I’m meant to be learning. I don’t even comprehend why any of it is happening. I just shut down.

Spoiler alert: The real magic happens when you choose to dance with change. It’s like stepping onto the dance floor of life with your heart wide open, ready to twirl and spin with whatever comes your way. I’m not a good dancer, so I don’t know why I mention dancing… there’s nothing scarier to me than falling on my bum. But I guess I just have to trust that every stumble is just a chance to bust out a new move, every fall a reminder to get back up and keep vibing.

Here’s the thing about change: It’s not just about rearranging the furniture in your life. It’s about tapping into the deeper currents of your soul, shedding old layers to reveal the shining essence at your core. Each shift, no matter how small, is an opportunity to reconnect with your truest self, to align more fully with the divine flow of the universe. Remember, everything happens for a reason.

So, the next time life throws you a curveball, remember to breathe, surrender, and just… dance. Trust that every twist and turn is guiding you closer to your highest good, leading you ever onward on your soul’s journey. After all, change isn’t just a destination—it’s the very heartbeat of existence, the sacred rhythm that propels us ever forward on our path to wholeness.

So let’s shimmy and shake, my friends, embracing the dance of change with open hearts and souls on fire.

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Embracing Solitude

In the hustle and bustle of modern life, amidst the constant noise and distractions, there lies a sanctuary waiting to be discovered: solitude. While often mistaken for loneliness, solitude is a deliberate choice to seek out moments of peace and reflection away from the clamour of the world.

In solitude, we find the space to reconnect with ourselves, to listen to the whispers of our own thoughts and emotions without the interference of external influences. It is a sacred time where we can delve into the depths of our being, understanding ourselves more profoundly and gaining clarity amidst life’s complexities.

Far from being isolating, solitude nourishes the soul, offering a chance for introspection and self-discovery. It allows us to recharge our energies, rejuvenate our spirits, and cultivate a sense of inner harmony that permeates every aspect of our lives.

Whether it’s a solitary walk in nature, a quiet moment of meditation, or simply unplugging from the digital world, embracing solitude can be a transformative experience. It enables us to tap into our creativity, unlock new insights, and foster a deeper connection with the world around us.

So, amidst the noise of daily life, don’t forget to carve out moments of solitude. In doing so, you may just find the serenity and clarity you’ve been searching for all along.

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Affirmations Are Magic

Hey, Lovelies!

Life’s a rollercoaster, right? Sometimes it feels like we’re riding high, and other times, well, not so much. But you know what helps me get through and always has? Affirmations. Affirmations are like little pep talks you give yourself.

Picture this: instead of waking up groggy and grumpy, you start your morning with a quick “I’ve got this!” or “Today is going to be amazing!” I know it’s easier said than done but it makes a huge difference.

The beauty of affirmations lies in their simplicity. They’re like mini reminders of how awesome you are and what you’re capable of achieving. And the best part? You can customise them however you like. Whether it’s boosting your confidence, staying focused on your goals, or just spreading good vibes – there’s an affirmation for every occasion.

Now, I’m not saying affirmations are some kind of magic potion that’ll instantly solve all your problems. But they are magic and they do help shift your mindset in a positive direction and in a world full of negativity and self-doubt, that’s something worth holding onto.

So, next time you catch yourself feeling down or stressed out, why not give affirmations a try? Repeat a few positive phrases, embrace the good vibes, and see how it brightens up your day. Remember, it’s the little things that make all the difference.

Here are some of my favourite affirmations:

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Time To Vision Board

I am starting late, I know……
I think the best thing for me to do, is to pretend that January didn’t happen and that February is actually the first month of the year.

So, it’s time to make a vision board – a visually inspiring collage that can act as a roadmap to your goals and desires. I make vision boards every year and I am so excited to make one for 2024! I have a feeling that this year is going to be full of crazy amazing things!

Here’s mine:

I like to keep my vision boards simple. I can make more than one and I can change them up whenever I feel like it. Remember this is a very personal exercise.

A vision board is more than just a collection of images and words pasted onto a board; it’s a tangible representation of your dreams and a constant reminder of what you want to manifest in your life. Here’s how to create your own vision board and harness its transformative potential:

1. Reflect on Your Goals:
Take some time to reflect on your short-term and long-term goals. What do you aspire to achieve in your personal and professional life? Consider your dreams, ambitions, and the kind of person you want to become.

2. Gather Materials:
If you are going to do this old school and make a big beautiful vision board that you can stick up on your wall then you’re going to need a few things. Collect magazines, images, quotes, and any other materials that resonate with your goals. The more diverse and representative, the better. You might also include personal photos, affirmations, and mementos.

3. Select a Medium:
Choose the format for your vision board. Some prefer a physical board using cork or poster board, while others opt for a digital version using online platforms or apps. The key is to select a medium that feels most accessible and inspiring to you. I always tend to make my vision boards online, because that just works for me. I then make my vision board the background on my phone and desktop. The most important thing in my opinion is that you see it everyday.

4. Get Creative:
Arrange your chosen materials on the board in a way that visually communicates your goals. Feel free to get creative – there are no strict rules. Use colours, textures, and patterns that evoke the emotions associated with your aspirations.

5. Place It Where You’ll See It:
Your vision board should be placed in a prominent location where you’ll encounter it daily. This constant visual reminder helps reinforce your goals and keeps them at the forefront of your mind.

6. Visualise and Affirm:
Regularly spend a few moments visualising yourself achieving your goals while looking at your vision board. Couple this with positive affirmations to enhance the impact. The combination of visualisation and affirmation can significantly boost your motivation and focus. You guys know I’m a huge fan of affirmations!

7. Update and Evolve:
As your goals evolve or change, update your vision board accordingly. It’s a dynamic tool that grows with you and adapts to your shifting aspirations.

Remember, a vision board is a personal and powerful tool that taps into the psychology of visualisation. By actively engaging with your dreams in a tangible way, you’re taking a proactive step towards turning them into reality. Embrace the creative process, stay focused, and watch as your vision board becomes a catalyst for positive change in your life.

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Feeling Lonely

In a world more connected than ever, loneliness remains an unwelcome companion for many. Even though the world has become smaller because of the digital threads weaving through our lives, the sense of isolation tends to persist. I know it’s easier said than done to reach out to people but I guess we need to find a way to bridge the gap between isolation and belonging.

Recognising loneliness as a shared experience can be the first step towards a more connected life. It’s not uncommon for others to feel the same way, and acknowledging this common thread can pave the way for meaningful connections. I am constantly looking for new connections.

My life has changed so much over the past few years and I find myself feeling more and more alone even though a whole world of potential is often held in the palm of my hand. Technology, for all its isolating potential, can also be a bridge to companionship. Virtual communities, social media groups, and online forums provide spaces where like-minded individuals can come together, fostering a sense of belonging. I haven’t had much luck yet in making life-long friends online but I have found a sense of community through social media. I think we all have to stay open minded, try new things and different platforms. There are so many beautiful, magical humans out there looking for the same things. We all need friends and companionship.

Loneliness is not a permanent state; it’s a passing cloud in the vast sky of human experience. A lesson that I have been trying to learn over the years is how to be alone and even though I am open to learning how to lean on myself and find comfort in myself…. I do miss having someone else to spend time with. So be open to the reality of being alone and the huge benefits of finding comfort in yourself but don’t give up on finding the people that are meant to be in your life.

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Getting Back Into The Swing Of Things

The start of a new chapter, a fresh beginning… I don’t know about you but that is exactly what I need. Whether you took a break, faced a setback, or simply drifted off course, getting back into the swing of things is a powerful step towards achieving your goals.

It’s time to reflect on your why. Take a moment to reconnect with your motivation. Why did you start this journey in the first place? Reflecting on your purpose can reignite the passion that fuelled your initial endeavours. I enjoy getting creative with this, I am a big fan of mood and vision boards. You could sit down for a few minutes and journal about it too. As long as you allow yourself to reconnect with that why.

Don’t overwhelm yourself with huge goals! Start small and build momentum gradually. I like to create three or four categories. Super short term – Long term. Something small could be how you need to declutter your phone. Every little thing that you achieve makes a huge difference.

Something I have to remind myself every day is that consistency is key. Create a daily routine that accommodates your goals. Whether it’s dedicating specific time slots for work, exercise, or leisure, a well-structured routine helps establish a sense of normalcy. 🙂

Getting back into the swing of things doesn’t mean neglecting your well-being. Prioritise self-care to ensure you have the energy and resilience needed for your journey. You can’t expect yourself to achieve all the amazing things if you’re not taking care of your mental health. You need to get sufficient sleep, try to eat healthy, and moments of relaxation goes a long way.

Another little reminder is that setbacks are a natural part of any journey. Instead of fixating on perfection, celebrate your progress. Every step forward, no matter how small, is a victory in itself. Be proud that you showed up for yourself and your goals! And don’t forget to be positive. Focus on the opportunities that lie ahead rather than dwelling on the past. The past is done, it’s over and there’s no way to change any of it… so just keep your eyes on the prize and just keep swimming.

Getting back into the swing of things is about embracing the journey, acknowledging the ebb and flow of life, and taking intentional steps toward your aspirations. As you regain your momentum, remember that each day is a chance to rewrite your story and move closer to the life you envision.

I believe in us! We can totally do the thing besties!

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Embrace The Fear

We tend to view fear as a hindrance, an obstacle that stands in the way of our progress. But what if we were to shift our perspective and see fear not as something bad but as something powerful to encourage personal growth and transformation?

Fear, at its core, is a natural response to the unknown. It’s our body’s way of signalling potential danger, triggering the fight-or-flight response. The only problem is that our fears trigger the fight-or-flight response even when we’re not in physical danger. That’s something that I’ve been living with my entire life, I constantly feel like a lion is about to jump out from behind me. Anxiety is fun right?

The thing is… It’s easy to get comfortable in the safety of the familiar, but growth doesn’t really happen when we’re stuck in our comfort zones. (I am currently stuck in a very squishy comfort zone…) Fear, though uncomfortable, is a sign that we’re stepping outside the boundaries of what we know. Instead of avoiding fear, we should think of it as an invitation to explore uncharted territories and expand our horizons. Who doesn’t like a good adventure??

“Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.”
– Marie Curie

Rather than viewing fear as an obstacle, consider it a guide. It points us toward areas in our lives that are ripe for transformation. By changing our perspective on fear, we open ourselves to the immense possibilities that lie on the other side of discomfort.

So, let’s embrace fear as a companion on our journey. Recognise its power to propel us forward, to push us beyond the boundaries of what we thought possible. The next time fear knocks on your door, welcome it with open arms – for within that discomfort lies the key to unlocking your true potential.

Now, if only I was good at taking my own advice.

Chat soon besties… I promise there isn’t a lion standing behind you right now. Hopefully.

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How?

I’m a firm believer of taking inspiration from anything and everything. I can find a story in anything and that’s one of my favourite things about myself but lately I’ve been struggling. I have been struggling in every area of my life but I feel like my writing has suffered the most. My creative side seems to be laying dormant and I’m not sure how to get it to move again.

I have never been this tired, I have never felt this stuck… this is kind of new to me and I don’t know how to get out of it. I don’t know how to get moving, how to get my creativity moving. I try to lean on my beliefs, practices and tools but most of the time I’m too tired for even that. If I could sleep the time away I would but thankfully that scares the shit out of me. I hate feeling like I’m running out of time and that’s all that will happen. Sleeping the days and stress away will only make it all worse. So instead I take small naps, stare off into the distance and manically do chores.

So this post is less about talking about the answers I’ve found and more about asking the question. I have one question for myself.

-How do I find my flow again?

I know that I’m the only person who can answer this question for myself. I know the answer is probably extremely obvious but at the moment I just can’t see it.

Wish me luck besties. I’ll let you know when I find the answer. 🙂

Thanks for being here… chat soon.

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New Year!


Hey, my lovelies.

Can you believe we’re in a new year? I like to take some time in January to really sit and think about my life and where I’d like to make some changes and improvements. It’s a time when I set some goals, sink into my gratitude and try to really breathe in the positivity. It’s time to put last year behind us and focus on this new year. I don’t know about you, but my year last year was possibly the wildest time of my life. It was full of ups and downs. I made some of my favourite memories last year and at the same time, sometimes last year haunts me with the trauma we went through… but I’m ready to let it go and just look forward. Here’s some of the things I’m going to be doing this month to set the tone for this new year.

  1. Reflect, Chill, Release:
    First things first, let’s take a relaxing moment to reflect on the past. What were the highs, the lows, and the in-betweens? No need for deep thoughts or overthinking – just vibe with it. Once you’ve got the vibe, release any lingering negativity. It’s like Marie Kondo-ing your mind. Let go of what doesn’t spark joy and make room for the good stuff.
  2. Set manageable Intentions:
    Forget the resolutions that make you feel like you’re signing a contract with the universe. Instead, set some laid-back intentions for the year. Think of it like a mantra for good times ahead. Something like, “I’m gonna rock this year with positive vibes” or “I’m gonna roll with the punches and come out smiling.”
  3. Gratitude is the Real MVP:
    Let’s talk about gratitude – the secret sauce to good vibes. Take a few minutes every day to think about the stuff that’s making you feel warm and fuzzy. Big wins, tiny victories, or just the fact that your favourite snack exists. Jot it down, share it with your friends – whatever floats your gratitude boat. The more you appreciate, the more good stuff rolls your way.
  4. Surround yourself with positive people:
    Take stock of your people and your space. If it’s all good vibes, awesome! If not, consider some changes. Surround yourself with the people who lift you up and create a cozy den that screams good times. A clutter-free zone can do wonders for your vibes, trust me.
  5. Embrace Zen:
    Just try a bit of mindfulness or meditation to keep the chill vibes flowing. Start small – a few minutes a day – and see how it goes. It’s like a mini vacation for your mind. Just breathe!
  6. Spread Good Vibes Like Confetti:
    You know what’s better than receiving good vibes? Giving them! Try random acts of kindness. It could be as simple as holding the door for someone or complimenting a stranger’s shoes. The ripple effect is real, and you’ll be surfing on good vibes in no time.

    That’s it, friends. Reflect, set intentions, be grateful, curate your space, chill out with mindfulness, and spread the good vibes like confetti. Here’s to a year filled with epic moments, awesome people, and vibes so good they should be bottled up.

    I’m sending you all love!
    Chat soon!
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Just Keep Going

Just keep going. That’s what I tell myself everyday. I have faith that things are improving, that my health is great, that my mental health is getting back to where it needs to be. Just keep going…. I’m going to be okay. Just keep going… your baby is going to be okay. Just keep going…. our family is going to be okay.

I’ve always found it fascinating how debilitating stress can be. It takes over my entire body and it’s like I’m stuck. There’s nothing to do in those moments besides sleep, or just sit and let the doom take over. I need to stop asking myself why I’m so tired and so slow… I just need to give myself some time. The lessons keep arriving and I do my best to learn. I deal with the people, the situations and the circumstances… I do my best to look at these lessons and take them on with grace.

Just keep going.
Just keep going.
Just keep going.
Just keep going.

I’m currently wrestling with a big fear… something that could potentially change everything about the way I wanted to give birth. Once again, I am sitting here just trying to figure out what I’m supposed to be learning from this. What is the lesson here? I know that everything happens for a reason and I always trust that the universe has my back but I can’t help but want to UNDERSTAND. I suppose that’s my downfall… I constantly have the need to understand things but I also happen to be an extremely confused individual.

Just keep going.
Just keep going.
Just keep going.
Just keep going.

I won’t lose myself in this and I’m incredibly lucky to have the most beautiful husband in the world. He keeps me smiling, laughing and sane… he makes everything brighter. I will keep going, growing and learning. This life is and always has been full of lessons. I’m happy to learn them… I think I just need a little break now. I’m tired.

How are you doing? I hope you’re okay and if you’re struggling… Just keep going. We’re going to be okay. ❤

Thanks for being here. I’ll chat to you soon.

🙂

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Why am I like this?

I have been sharing my life, experiences and thoughts here for a long time and I love it. This blog has been a huge part of my healing journey. I love sharing here but when it comes to talking to a real life person… I forget how to think and speak. I suppose when it comes to speaking to an actual person in real life… I feel like I’m not in control. I worry about what I’m saying, how it will be perceived and how the person may be judging me.

It took a minute for me to get into therapy because I’m so bad at opening up to people but I got lucky with my therapist. She made it easier for me. But now I am sitting with a problem… I’m being challenged. Thanks Universe. ❤

In a few days I will have to sit in front of a person I don’t know and tell them everything. Well, not everything but I will have to open up and I am not looking forward to it. When it comes to sharing here, I am in control… I enjoy the process of just writing whatever I want to. I suppose writing has always been a form of therapy for me, it also helps that there isn’t a pair of eyes trained on me. Oh! How I love eye contact! (I don’t.) Half the time when I’m making eye contact with a stranger I’m just thinking about the eye contact…
Am I doing it right?
Am I blinking enough?
Should I look away and then look back at them?
Will they notice if I blink a lot and then squeeze my eyes shut for a moment because that sounds amazing.
Am I stimming?
I should blink now!

The biggest question I’m asking myself right now besides… WHY AM I LIKE THIS? Is… Should I drop the mask in front of this person? Can I trust them? My husband will be with me and he hasn’t even seen me completely without a mask. Will it be safe to stim or will I have to answer questions that make me angry? Will they judge me? I have no idea what I’ll do but I need to be there and I need to allow myself to be there. It’s just feeling very scary at the moment.

I ask myself this question everyday. I’d love to get to the point where I can just accept myself for who I am but I understand that I still have a lot of healing and growing to do before I’ll be completely comfortable in myself.

Thanks for letting me scream into the void a little bit. It helps. Thank you for reading dear stranger. I’m assuming there’s zero judgment coming from you. ❤

Chat soon!

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It’s Okay

I just want you to now that it’s okay to say how you feel. Your feelings are important, they matter and you don’t have to feel bad for feeling the way you feel.

Our feelings are there for a reason, they help us learn and grow. Feelings let us know how we are, how life is affecting us and if we’re in the right place. Listening to your feelings can teach you so much about yourself and the world around you. Don’t ignore your feelings, they are there for a reason.

I have always been extremely hard on myself. I beat myself up for the smallest things and I know that is a result of trauma but I also understand that I can’t stay in that dark place. I deserve better and so do you.

Let yourself feel your emotions and give yourself the credit you deserve. You are amazing!

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Things! So many things.

My brain is busy. There’s so much to do and so much to think about. You know when you’re a ball of stress? When you feel like your body is buzzing from all the adrenaline and insanity? That’s where I’m at, that fight and flight is now drenched in idea juice. (ew… Note to self: never say idea juice ever again.)

I have so many ideas, the possibilities are endless. I want to do this creative thing and that creative thing…. oh! and don’t forget that huge creative thing sitting there in the corner of my mind. I want to do it all!

Ultimately I am not going to do ALL THE THINGS. I’m might not even do one thing. It’s nice to think about all the possibilities but my brain is still frozen. There’s too many tabs open and now it’s just stuck. So what I need to do is get away from the THINGS and focus on the stuff I can do, the stuff that’s ready to be done… the stuff in front of me that in the greater scheme of things, will actually solve a lot of my problems.

So, lets make a list. Here are the things I need to do today.

  1. reply to the messages from all the people
  2. write 1000 words
  3. write one or two flash pieces
  4. blog post
  5. social media posts
  6. eat food
  7. house things

Writing it all out in a list helps my brain to focus a bit so hopefully today goes well and I can just get some stuff done.

I hope you have a fantastic day of getting stuff done too, unless you’re just planning on having a chill day… in which case…. enjoy!

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How do I breathe?

I don’t talk much… well, that’s a lie. Some may say I talk too much, if I’m super comfortable around a person, I never shut up. I don’t talk much about the real stuff, the things on my mind, the things that matter. I don’t share my stress, my worries or my grief. I don’t know how to talk about it to anyone but my mother and she’s not here anymore.

The days go by fast and the stress keeps threatening to overflow, all the while the only voice in my head is that of a small girl, crying for her mother.

Mommy.
Mommy.
Mommy..

The worst part is that I’m not alone. I have a beautiful, magical and loving support system. I have love and kindness surrounding me. I am safe. I have the freedom to be myself and thrive. But….

Mommy.
Mommy.
Mommy.

Grief is a strange thing. I know grief well, death is something I had to make peace with from a very young age but grief catches me by surprise…. every. single. day. When the screaming in my mind takes a break, I get a moment to breathe and then I have this intense need to get things done. But my brain is so tired from the screaming that it struggles to catch up. Which in turn makes me stress….

Mommy.
Mommy.
Mommy.

How do I explain to someone that my brain never shuts up, that all I want is my mother? I don’t talk much about these things but I know that I should. I wish my mom was here, she would know what to say.

Oh, thank goodness… the noise stopped. Time to breathe.

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Just a little reminder.

Hey lovelies. I know I haven’t posted anything here for a really long time. Life has been insane in the best way possible! Life still feels like a dream. Sometimes I have to remind myself that it is real, that I am the happiest I have ever been and that I deserve that happiness.

With that being said, the past few days have been a bit rough for me. My brain has been slow and caught up in the pain of the past…. yet at the same time I’ve been feeling a bit numb. It has been three years since my mother passed away. I can hardly believe it, the time has just flown. I wish she could be here to see how my life has changed. I wish she was here to laugh and play with us. I miss her so much.

When it comes to every day life, I have zero motivation and the stress is a little paralyzing. BUT… I’m allowing the feelings to flow. I am giving myself grace. I understand why I’m feeling this way and there’s no way to force these feelings to go away. All I can do is give myself these moments, offer myself a hug and a kind word. I am human… I feel big things and that’s okay. When it comes to grief, I allow myself to grow around the pain. The grief doesn’t become less, I just keep growing.

I have faith that everything will be okay. I will find my flow…. the fire will embrace me again. 

So, here’s a little reminder. If you’re not okay… if life has been feeling a bit challenging. Just take a deep breath and offer yourself the love and kindness you would give to others. 

I’m sending you all big hugs. 

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The Question On My Mind

Hey everyone,

I know I haven’t posted here for a long time. Life has just been completely crazy and I’ve been struggling to keep up with everything.

But today I was inspired to write a post. I had a really difficult day, mentally I am not okay. I am burning out, I’m sick at the moment and life isn’t slowing down. After a slight panic attack and a good cry I was left with one question floating around in my brain.

“Is this why I’m alone?”

I have a lot of issues and over the years after loads of trauma, it just got worse. I am in therapy, I have a wonderful therapist and I do the work… everyday I work with the tools I have to get through the day but…. but then something happens that turns me upside down and I’m left feeling completely helpless.

I have always needed assistance in life and I have always had it, then my mother passed away and I was left alone and scared. My father doesn’t understand how to help and he doesn’t have the time to help, so a lot of the time…. I just…flounder. Some days are better than others, some days I can get through without much hassle but then there are days like today. Luckily, I have one person who I can rely on in the really bad times but they also have a life and I feel bad asking them for help. Today I realized if I don’t ask for their help, I will pass out from the anxiety. I’m actually still feeling a little dizzy.

Anyway, they came to the rescue and they will assist me with my problem but this whole thing led me straight back to the question always niggling at the back of my mind…

“Is this why I’m alone?”

Now, this question makes sense in lots of ways. I push people away because I’m scared of them. I pull away from people because I’m scared of myself. People make me extremely tired because I have a spicy brain. I don’t trust anyone because of trauma. I have raging anxiety that stops me from living a normal life. I have a spicy brain that doesn’t understand why things are the way they are. I do not function like a normal human.

“Is this why I’m alone?”

Who would ever want to deal with my special brand of crazy and who would be willing to assist me in the ways that I need? And who the hell am I, to ask for assistance from anyone.

“Is this why I’m alone?”

I don’t know if I’ll ever have an answer to that question and I don’t know if that question will ever go away. But the logical part of my brain and my heart insists that just because I am different and just because I find life incredibly hard… that doesn’t mean I should give up and that doesn’t mean I’m not worthy of receiving love and kindness from someone.

So if you feel the same way and you often find yourself asking… “Is this why I’m alone?” Just know that (and excuse the corn) you’re not alone. You deserve the love, support and kindness that you crave and that you need to function.

If you’ve read all this, thank you and I hope you know that you’re loved.

Until next time,
Love and Light

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Exciting Things!

Hello Everyone!

My proof copy of the book is on the way!!! I can’t believe it! I saw pictures of my actual physical book and soon I’m going to be able to hold it in my hands!

I will of course post pictures here when it arrives! My emotions are just all over the place right now!

In other news, the book launch is pretty much planned and sorted. I just need to practice the chapter I will be reading and I need to keep sending out invites. I’m trying not to think about it too much though because it’s pretty scary. I am not good with crowds or talking to people let alone “public speaking”. I’m sure I will be okay though. I’m just going to take it one breath at a time.

I am still working on the newsletter, the first one will be sent out at the end of this month. I will post the link to the sign up form at the bottom of this post if you want to sign up for it.

Oh! I also managed to get my Author Profile on Goodreads all set up and the book is over there too, so feel free to follow me and add the book to your lists if you use Goodreads. 🙂

I’m pretty happy with how everything has been going, and I will continue to keep everyone updated.

I know this post didn’t have much in it but I had to post about my proof copy! I am so excited to hold it in my hands.

I hope everyone is well and thriving! I will post again soon!

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Thank you for all the love and support!
Chat soon!

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Hello? Can you hear me?

Hello! Yes, I am alive and well and walking around and talking and stuff. I know it has been a hot minute but things have been happening and every time I thought about blogging I just fell flat. I honestly don’t know how to continue with this blog because life has just changed so much, but I figure I can just keep doing what I’m doing.

I like having this little corner of the internet and I don’t see why I should change it. Now, where to start…

I am officially an author! My book came out a few days ago and I’m still a little dazed. I can’t believe it. The book is available on Amazon and on Kindle Unlimited, the printed copies should be ready in two weeks and then hopefully it will get into bookstores.

I am in the middle of planning a book launch and I’m so nervous. I have never been one for big social events and I’m painfully shy on the best of days. I’m also going to be at a book fair at the end of next month… again, so nervous. I just have so much happening and my brain wants to switch off. I know that in the end it will all be okay and it will all go well but…. but, I’m so scared. Having to do all of this without my mom has been daunting and not as fun as I imagined these moments to be, because she was supposed to be experiencing it with me. I wish… I wish…

Anyway, besides the events there’s the whole marketing side of things that I have been trying to get into. I have been posting on my socials like a crazy person and yesterday I managed to set up a newsletter! (it took me the whole day to figure it out…)

All in all I’m just a little bit stressed, very excited and completely overwhelmed.

I will link all the things here and I hope you all stick around for this crazy journey. I will do my best to blog more! I hope you are all well and thriving out there!

Love and Light!

(I forgot how I usually sign off on these things…)

Bye!

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Life Update

Hey everyone!

I know it’s been a long time, I can’t seem to keep up with time and how fast things are happening. As you may or may not know, I am a writer. I write novels and it has been a lifelong dream of mine to publish my books. Writing is what has kept me going, it’s been a constant in my life, it’s kept me sane. Everything has just fallen into place and my first book Going Home is coming out this year! It still feels unreal, I have to pinch myself every now and then. Even though this happened a while ago, I still have no idea how to tell people. It feels like I’m living in a dream.

I am so grateful for the people that have been working on the book, they have made this process so wonderful and I feel so blessed. I will be doing a cover reveal next week and I am so excited! I think it will start to feel more real when I see the cover come to life. I can’t wait to share it with you all.

I will be posting more about the book over the next few weeks and I will announce the release date very soon. I will also be posting book content on TikTok and Instagram so feel free to follow me there for more fun updates.

I look forward to this journey and I am very excited to see what the future holds.

Until next time lovely humans,
Love and Light.

Feel free to follow me for more updates. 🙂

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It’s a New Year

Happy New Year Everyone!
I wanted to write this post on the 1st but the days have just been running away from me. I hope everyone had a wonderful festive season!

I can’t believe another year went by so fast. I’ve been both excited and fearful of this new year. I’m getting closer and closer to the big 3…0 It’s strange to think about. This year I will be 29 and I still feel like a teenager. I feel like 2022, is the year that I need to really set the tone for next few years of my life. I need to start taking steps in the right direction.

2021 was heavy, I’m proud of myself for how much I’ve grown in the past year. Looking back I can clearly see how I have changed and I’m very grateful for those changes. Working through my issues has not been easy but it has been rewarding. It’s the small things… like I’m setting boundaries, I’m saying no, I’m masking less… I feel stronger because of these small things. So to others it may seem silly, I may seem worse from the outside (since I’m not masking as much)… I still don’t talk much, I hang back and prefer to be at home but what people can’t see is that for the first time in my life… I’m not judging myself like I used to… I’m okay with being at home, I enjoy being myself with the people I trust…. I’m allowing myself to feel.
So I say THANK YOU 2021.

There are so many things I would like to do and see in 2022. I have a lovely list of goals, and plans. I will continue to grow throughout this year, I will discover more about myself, I will allow myself to be free.

I hope you achieve all that you want to achieve this year… and may 2022 bring us healing, love and happiness. Every creature on this planet deserves it.

Happy New Year you beautiful beings… until next time,
Love and Light. 🙂

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Change of Routine

Hello everyone and Happy December!
I can’t believe that December is here already!

With the start of December a new routine has begun and I am not loving it. I usually love change and I welcome it happily but change of routine is a whole other story for me. I don’t do well when that happens. My anxiety goes crazy. Even though I’m starting a new routine I feel like all I can do is just stand still, while my thoughts run wild! I am a creature of habit, what can I say?
So this month might be a challenge for me. I need to find a good flow and find little pockets of peace.

With that being said I am planning a stress free December and I plan on saying ‘no’ as often as I need to. I will be surrounding myself with pretty colors, music, good books and lots of rest. The goal is to go into the new year rested and ready.

I hope everyone reading this has a beautiful December and may the holiday season be filled with joy!

Until next time,
Love and Light.

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Brain Not Working…

Do you ever feel like your brain just isn’t working. I’ve been feeling like this for weeks now… it’s like the thoughts are running away from me and I’m just too slow to catch them. It’s brain fog with an extra punch.

There’s so much I want to say and write, I’ve started so many sentences and they just end up no where, it’s such a strange feeling. I’m of course being gentle with myself and I never put too much pressure but I just wish I could get something out.
I think one of the things I miss the most about having a person constantly around is, the opportunity to talk. I go for hours without talking to anyone and that really has a weird effect on me. When I always had someone around, I would just talk about whatever came to mind and that really helped to keep my thoughts organized. Now I have no idea what’s going on in my brain.

It happened just now! I had a thought and now I’m just left with a blank expression on my face. Who knows what I wanted to say… it is gone forever. Anyway, I hope this gets better at some point, so that I can blog about something interesting!

Do you ever feel like this?

Until next time lovely people,
Love and Light.

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Hello November

Hey everyone,

I can’t believe November is here! The time has just flown and I’m honestly finding it a bit dizzying.

This month is going to be a busy one. It’s NaNoWriMo, 50,000 words in a month! I always participate in Nano and I’m super excited to get started. I am also doing a little writing course again for fun this month. A few exciting things are happening but at the same time there’s a lot of change that I’m still trying to process. There will be a few goodbyes going into the new year and life might feel empty for a while but I’ll hold onto the hope that good things are on the way.

So for the next two months I will be focusing on my creative journey and nurturing my friendships. The goal is to start querying literary agents next year, so my writing comes first. I’ve also reconnected with an old friend and that’s been so amazing. My heart feels happier knowing that she’s back in my life, I’m also constantly trying to make new connections. I want to go into the new year feeling refreshed and safe in life.

I don’t really know what else to say, all I can say is “Hey universe, the year is coming to an end… please be gentle.”

I hope November brings us all huge amounts of happiness! Sending love and light to everyone.

Until next time,


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Time On My Mat

So today I completely broke down on my mat. It’s happened before and it will definitely happen again in the future. If you’re open to it, yoga has a way of healing your wounds but as we know, to heal the wounds, we need to feel the pain. Today I felt the pain.

This morning I woke up in pain, my body was aching… it felt inflamed and battered. The minute I stepped on the mat I knew that todays practice was going to be hard. Through the first few poses I noticed that I was carrying a lot of emotions in my arms, which is kind of new for me. Every time a wave of energy moved through my arms and down into my hands grounding into the earth, I felt like crying. I was half way through the practice and I broke. I collapsed onto my mat, my arms failed me… and I let it go. I cried there for a good ten minutes and then I felt the peace flowing over me. I was still shaking but my arms felt lighter.

This is what my yoga practice is all about, it isn’t about sculpting my body or becoming as flexible as possible. My intention in my practice has always been to heal. When I step on that mat, I am opening myself to healing. It hurts and it can be scary but it’s also freeing. After my practice I ate some lunch and I decided to take a nice Reiki bath. Coconut oil, Rooibos, Oats, Lavender and Rosemary… topped with a big dose of loving Reiki energy.

I’m still tired but todays practices nourished me and helped me release some heavily clogged up energy. I am so thankful.

I just want to remind you that it’s okay to break down, it’s okay to cry… Your body needs that, it needs to release that energy so that the healing can begin. Bottling up our emotions is never a good idea, eventually it could make us sick.
Be kind to yourself, let it out and then see how it feels trying to let it go. I know it’s not easy to let it go, but at least be open to trying.

Sending you all love and light.

Until next time,
Namaste.

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Intuitive Movement

Hello lovely humans,

I was talking to someone the other day about yoga and daily practice, and how easy it is to fall out of routine. They made the point that because they were being so strict with themselves that it took all the joy out of it. I find that too much structure can definitely have that affect. Yoga is meant to be a practice that makes you feel good, that connects you with yourself and the universe… it’s not supposed to feel like an obligation.

As you may or may not know, I have been doing Yoga for many years and it’s always been a sporadic practice. I want to find a way to make it more regular but with zero pressure. I want to get back to the heart of my practice. So what I’ve started doing is intuitive movement. I get on my mat and just listen to my body. I often start with a good Forward Fold and then I let my body decide if I’m stepping back into Downward Dog or if I’m taking another route. Sometimes I start in Child’s Pose and take it from there. What I’ve found from doing it this way is that I’m excited to get on my mat again the next day.

Ultimately as long as we move our bodies and stay active, that’s all that matters. Only by moving our bodies do we get rid of all that stagnant energy. So give intuitive movement a try, do what feels good and remember to breathe! 🙂

Until next time,
Namaste.

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We Are Enough

Hello fellow humans…

I know I’ve already harped on about Preptober (it’s not going well.) so I wont go into detail but I did want to touch on productivity and my lack thereof. We live in a world where being productive is everything, if we aren’t doing twenty things at the same time then we’re lazy, if we didn’t achieve everything on our to-do list then we’re lazy… We are constantly busy and judging others for not being busy. I don’t really judge others that much but I do judge myself. I can be so mean to myself if I’m not motivated, I will beat myself up horrendously if I don’t achieve everything on my to-do list. I compare myself to others, I see how busy and successful everyone else is and here I am, still struggling with existence.

The first thing I try to remind myself of is that everyone is different, success looks different to everyone. Yes, we live in an extremely busy world, we live in a competitive society, and a lot of the time it’s a judgmental society but why do we feel the need to compete? Why do we have to deal with other peoples judgments? We are all unique and we should start celebrating that.

So yes, I am behind on Preptober and I will probably be very behind in NaNo, I might fail completely or I might ‘win’, what matters is that I try and I do my very best. I could walk away with 20,000 words or 50,000 words either way that’s more than what I started with.

I guess I just wanted to put that out there… Your worth is not determined by others and what they deem enough. Be proud of every little thing you achieve, even if its just that you got out of bed today. I’m proud of you. 🙂

Until next time,
Love and Light.

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Time To Prepare!

Hello everyone!

I can’t believe how fast the time is going by! It is October, which means it’s Preptober! I have to say I am incredibly behind on all things NaNo as per usual. I will be partaking this year in lovely NaNoWriMo, and I am determined to do some kind of planning.

I am a Pantser at heart but now that I’m busy with my third draft of what I’ll call… Project Home, I realise how necessary the intense planning is. (Unfortunately) I usually only start outlining after my second draft but this year I want to try something new.
This year, I am staring with the outline! (I know, shocking.) I will be doing an outline as detailed as possible for someone like me and preptober is the time to get that done.

So, I have announced my project already and I’m doing that nifty 6 week workshop that NaNoWriMo has so graciously shared. The workshop has been a huge help. I will hopefully have a good outline ready by the time November arrives and then it’s non stop writing from there on. Exciting times!

Are any of you partaking in NaNo and if so are you a pantser, plotter or planster? I once heard the term flashlight writer which I really like too.

Anyway, wish me luck for the outlining!

Until next time,
Love and Light.

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Life Happens

Hey everyone!

Happy October! I can’t believe another month has flown by. I feel like I just blinked and the first week of October was gone. Granted I have been kept busier than usual.

Over the past few weeks I’ve been processing a huge amount and my brain is so tired. I got some news that knocked me for six, I saw some family and the stress is never-ending. I’ve realized some things about myself and I decided to go to therapy again.

I don’t know about you but I have never found it easy to ask for help, I’ve always shied away from being vulnerable with people. I’ve always fought my battles silently but it has come to the point where I can’t do it on my own anymore and admitting to that has been one of the hardest things I have ever had to do.
Losing people is never easy, saying goodbye is something that I have become accustomed to but now all those goodbyes have become too heavy to carry and I’ve started to struggle. Then my doctor caught me in a sensitive mood and I cracked. We went from talking about my diet to talking about grief. She then convinced me to get back into therapy. I am so thankful to her.

It is hard to ask for help, but sometimes we are forced to.

I had my first session today and even though I am feeling very scattered and overwhelmed, I am very grateful that I took that step again. There is no shame in needing help, there is no shame in needing someone to talk to. There is no shame in being vulnerable.

I encourage anyone who feels bogged down by life to go and ask for help, even if you just talk to a friend that you trust, we can’t keep bottling things up and expect a positive result. Life always happens and it doesn’t take much to break that bottle.

Anyway, I hope this finds you all well out there! Its a time of changing seasons and the end of the year is creeping up on us. Let’s all take a moment and think of something that we’re grateful for…

I AM GRATEFUL FOR THE AIR I BREATHE. 🙂

Until next time,
Love and Light.

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Have A Little Dance

Hello beautiful people! Tell me, when was the last time you got up and moved around? It’s so important that we keep our bodies moving. It feels awful when our energy becomes stagnant. I was reminded of that today.

Today is a very windy day here, and I remember how I used to love the wind as a child. I would run out and dance in the wind, my arms open wide to the universe, a broad smile on my face. My mom never really understood my love for the wind, strong wind used to scare her… but she let me dance to my heart’s content out in the billowing wind. I would come back into the house with wild hair and ruddy cheeks.

So, with those memories fresh in my mind I went outside into the garden. Huge gusts of wind flew around me. I opened my arms and twirled. My body was stiff at first but after a while, I could feel the stagnant energy start to melt away.

Remember to see the magic in life, have a little dance and try to let go of all your aches and pains.

Until next time,
Love and Light.

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I’m Alive!

Hello Everyone! Yes, I am alive.

It’s been a rough couple of months and I’ve allowed myself the space to feel every emotion. It’s important to give yourself permission to feel. I stopped doing the things that were adding pressure and only focused on the things bringing me joy and peace.

I’ve been writing and editing everyday, reading loads of books and watching my favorite shows. I’ve been living life to the best of my ability. My birthday was last month, technically my second birthday without my mom but it felt like the first. In that room surrounded by my family I felt her absence deeply. Listening to everyone singing to me, I was searching for one voice in particular… a voice I will never hear again. Even though the celebration made my heart ache in ways I can’t explain, I was very grateful to see my family again. I miss them so much.

Life has pretty much lost meaning for me, so I hold onto the few things that still spark joy. Grief haunts my every move and I long for my lost loved ones. Seeing them in my dreams each night used to bring me joy but now it only makes me sad. So many words left unsaid plays on a loop in my head.
I’ve turned to simple exercises to keep me grounded. I have a notebook dedicated to all of my little exercises.

I know I am constantly talking about affirmations but they really work for me. I make sure to listen to ten to twenty minutes of affirmations every day.
I write a list of at least ten things I am grateful for every day.
Then I will either do a mind dump or I will set a timer for ten minutes and allow myself to journal about all the things niggling my brain. Then lastly if I feel up to it, I will do my What I Appreciate About My Life Right Now exercise. In this exercise you need to list all the things you love in the current season of your life. It’s not easy but it does make my situation a little lighter, and how on earth can I expect things to get better if I don’t appreciate the good things in my life right now?

So, I keep on going and I hang onto life as best as I can. I will remain being kind to myself and I will keep pushing myself to rejoice in the good times and the bad. I will remain open to all lessons and keep learning from them. I can feel the tides turning and I’m waiting in anticipation to see what this next chapter of my life will hold. I will try to keep this blog going, but I cant promise a consistent schedule.

Thank you for reading this little update and I hope you are well and staying safe out there. Sending much love to you all.

Until next time,
Love and Light.

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It’s A New Month

I can’t believe July is here. It feels like this year has just flown by!
June was a tough month full of struggles and lessons to be learned. I am hoping that July will be gentler. July is also another writing heavy month since it’s Camp NaNoWrimo! I am already behind, but luckily my goal is only 30,000 words for this month which is doable. I’m hoping by the end of this month my manuscript will be ready for proof readers!

It’s also strange knowing that my birthday is creeping closer and closer. My second birthday without my beautiful momma. I feel like big things are coming and I’m not prepared at all. With all of these feelings and emotions floating around my brain I find myself distracted and motivation is at an all time low, but I will push on and try to make July a brilliant month!

Goals for July

  • Finish the novel
  • Read three books
  • Ground myself outside everyday
  • 30 min of yoga everyday

I would say those are the big goals for this month. I can feel something coming and I need to be strong and grounded for the change on it’s way.

Here’s to a good July, may it be a kind month.

Until next time,
Love and Light.

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How I Get Myself Out Of A Rut

So, I’m not having the best day… I’m feeling under the weather, I had way too much dairy yesterday so my nose hates me, I have eczema around my eyebrows and that pesky brain fog is still with me. My body is obviously telling me to slow down, all I want to do is eat my emotions and I’m manifesting all the wrong things. Sometimes we lose our footing, trip over reality and then freak out.

Today is going to be a day of doing the things that bring me joy. I need to find those good feelings and drench myself in them. Shall I tell you about some of my favorite things to do on a bad day?

Firstly, I make sure to have a nice cup of coffee in the morning, especially on the bad days. I know I’m not technically allowed to have coffee anymore but we all deserve a good cheat day every now and then. (Sometimes it’s more than one day a week. Oops.)
Then, I have something to eat… usually breakfast is my biggest meal of the day. (Food is important!)
I’m a person who finds comfort in background noise. So I always have movies or series on in the background. Especially my comfort shows. Today is The Vampire Diaries. I’ve lost count how many times I’ve watched all the seasons.

The big thing for me is not to get stuck on social media, when I’m having a bad day I need to force myself to be off my phone as much as possible. A good way to do that is by catching up on some writing! Writing sprints are the way to go for me, I usually sprint for 25 to 30 minutes and take 5 to 10 minute breaks between sprints.

I make sure that at some point during the day I get a good yoga session in, followed by a meditation or some chanting. Last night I dreamt of cleansing my space, so at some point today I will probably smudge the house. A good spiritual cleansing can never hurt.
Reading is another comfort, goodness knows my TBR for this month has a bit of everything so I have lots to choose from.

Then lastly a solo dance party is the cherry on top! At the moment Harry Styles is my happy music but who knows where the playlist will go!

What’s something that you do to help lift your spirits?

I hope you’re all having a good day and may the rest of your weekend be amazing!

Until next time,
Light and Love.

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I can’t.

I don’t know about you but I’ve been feeling chaotic today! For the past week I have been struggling to concentrate or focus on anything. It almost feels like brain fog, I find myself triple checking the things I write to make sure it makes sense, I have to read things a few times to help it sink in. My anxiety has been insane, intrusive thoughts galore and the most vivid dreams.
The energies and the movements of the planets have me feeling all topsy turvy. People are intimidating, the outside world is scary and all I want to do is take a nap! (I have been taking many naps. Listen to your body!) I feel like a mixture of The Mad Hatter, The March Hare and The Dormouse…. I should get myself some tea.

So with all the weirdness, I’ve thrown myself into some self study and serious manifestation practices! What do you do when you’re feeling all blah and up in the air?

For now I will try to embrace the madness and get through the rest of the month. Hopefully things will calm down, hopefully the energy becomes more gentle because I don’t think I can take this for much longer.

“I’m afraid I can’t explain myself, sir. Because I am not myself, you see?”

― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Sending loads of love and light your way!

Until next time,
Namaste.

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Fearing The Next Step

Hey everyone, I know I haven’t blogged in a while. Life went a bit wonky there for a second. It still feels like the world is spinning around me and I’m struggling to get my footing but the spinning seems to be slowing down a little. (Hopefully.)

I decided to check in and write a blog post, perhaps writing will help.

Navigating this world without my mom is very daunting to me. When she was around I always had someone to talk to, someone who would drop everything and listen, give advice and help me reach a decision. I took that for granted. I never realized it would go away so soon.
Today an opportunity came knocking and I desperately needed to talk it out. Luckily my cousin was happy to listen but ultimately I still had to take control of the thought process and my decisions. It’s in moments like that, that I feel like a little child drowning. My mom wasn’t just my mom. She was my best friend, my business partner and we were each others biggest fans. We did everything together, especially when it came to our business and now I have to make these decisions alone. A big part of me feels like I can’t, like I’m missing a step, like I’m not allowed to make these decisions alone. It’s a very strange feeling. I’m not sure I’ll ever get used to it.
Ultimately, I did make a choice and I’m happy with my choice because I know it’s the right thing to do but there’s a small part of me that’s always worried that I might be going in the wrong direction and there isn’t anyone who knows me well enough to stop me from walking off a cliff by accident. I get that this is part of life and everyone goes through moments of being scared, imposter syndrome effects many, many people. I’ve just never felt so lost.

The only thing getting me through, is the knowledge I have gathered throughout my life. The practices that keep me breathing deeply and my loved ones that are still here. I know that’s all I really need to navigate my way through this life and I’m grateful but it’s still scary.

If you’re going through anything scary at the moment, know that you’re not alone. Let’s take a deep breath in together. In through the nose and sigh it out! Again through the nose and out through the mouth. Let go of that fear. One last time, in through the nose and a big sigh out.
Know that you are loved and know that you are safe.

Until next time,
Namaste.

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